I never found it easy to ‘get’ a Japanese woman, then again, my fiancé and I met on a Japanese TV show for the express purpose of finding someone to marry.The modern version of the omiai (arranged marriage) seems to be working quite well for us.In my experience, most Japanese men would label the challenges caused by having a NJ wife ‘mendokusai’ (*a pain in the rear).” “In the end, Japanese women are just women as well. Usually there’s no initiative to approach men, like for example in Germany. Starting with a completely different meaning of ‘love’ in Japan, followed by the concept of ‘honne’ (本音: real feelings) and “tatemae” (建前: what she’ll tell you) to name just a few. Be prepared for a lot of disappointment.” “A lot of Japanese dudes are thinking that gaijin women are just too strong for them and that these women wouldn’t fit into the typical role of a woman in a typical Japanese marriage.And if a Japanese woman approaches you as a gaijin, just run as fast as you can! Well, I’ll tell you foreign ladies a secret: A lot of disappointed male gaijin are just waiting for a chance with you! He says about himself that he’s a rather introverted person who wouldn’t just walk up to a Japanese woman, throwing the following at her: “Konnichiwa, nice stockings, wanna go out?
But I guess you can say at least they’re upfront about their preferences.” “It might seem so in the beginning, but eventually you come to realize that most of those troubles you were blaming on cultural differences were really just a result of your having not done due diligence (and who hasn’t been victimized by their libido’s tendency to takeover when a pretty face and lovely assets are involved, or rushed into something questionable to escape loneliness?In August 2013 Ben participated in the popular Japanese TV show Motemote 99 where he met a wonderful Japanese women. In Japan, women and men tend to socialize separately, so unless you find someone at work (which has its own issues), you’re limited in the ways you might meet a potential date.One good option is joining a community club or activity, though then there’s no telling if they’ll fit your age range.Also, if you check certain English language magazines like Metropolis, or certain websites, you’ll find personal ads from Japanese women who are in the market for NJ guys.
Although I’ve found a strong preference for white guys in these ads.) So, often these troubles occur when someone didn’t get to know the person before leaping into the relationship.” “I think NJ women have to deal with stereotypes just like the NJ men here.